Change Your English, Change Your Life! These lessons are developed to inspire you to make changes in your life and help you enhance your English skills. In this lesson you will read a text about about building confidence.
A. Read the text out loud
If you don’t feel good about yourself, you don’t like the way you look, and you don’t mingle with others well, chances are that you’re suffering from a lack of self-confidence. As this is one of the most important aspects of life, particularly in the social area, you need to get started in correcting that immediately. People must have confidence in themselves so that others will find them sociable and attractive. Those with no self-confidence typically don’t attend social gatherings of any sort due to their insecurities about themselves.
On the flip side of the coin, people that are confident generally get the best jobs and are invited to all the parties. This most likely happens because they present themselves well and people are just naturally more drawn to those with a confident demeanor. It may not be the easiest thing in the world to build self-confidence, but it’s certainly possible to do. Have a look at the following three techniques to help you gain self-confidence:
Embrace yourself, warts and all: The first thing you must do in your quest for self-confidence is to accept yourself. If you don’t believe in yourself or what you’re capable of, you’ll never have the confidence that you need. Learning to accept yourself before you do anything else will help you feel good about yourself.
Learn from mistakes: Everyone makes a mistake at some point in their lives. You can’t avoid it. However, these mistakes can be just as important as successes in that you can take away knowledge of how NOT to do things. That’s why they’re actually very useful in building confidence.
Keep a positive attitude: Stay optimistic about your life even when things aren’t so great. Life is meant to be enjoyed and there are solutions to all problems. You just have to stay strong and hold that belief in yourself.
Most importantly, keep a high regard for yourself at all times. This will help you remain confident in yourself and your ability to get things done. Confidence will eventually help you achieve all of your dreams and life’s goals. You just need to do the things to build it and then keep it.
Match the word with the correct definition.
|1.Mingle||A. outward behavior or bearing.|
|2.Aspect||B. including features or qualities that are not appealing or attractive.|
|3.Demeanor||C. uncertainty or anxiety about oneself; lack of confidence.|
|4.Warts and all||D.move freely around a place or at a social function, associating with others.|
|5. Insecurity||E. a particular part or feature of something.|
C. Fill in the blanks
- Joel did not want to expose his fears and _________to anyone.
- Jessica is quiet and she has a calm _______.
- To confidently deal with people is the most important ________of my work.
- After work I go out to _______ with my friends.
- I accept my flaws___________.
D. Grammar Focus
The first conditional has the present simple after ‘if’, then the future simple in the other clause:
- if + present simple, … will + infinitive
It’s used to talk about things which might happen in the future. Of course, we can’t know what will happen in the future, but this describes possible things, which could easily come true.
E. Discussion/Journal Questions
- What will you do if you feel insecure?
- What might you say if your friend is pessimistic?
- Do you feel you have a positive demeanor?Provide an example.
- What might you do if you feel nervous mingling in English?
- Who accepts you ‘warts an all’? Do you accept yourself?
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